Relationships Aren’t For All.

Some people go their whole lives trying to please everyone else or trying to live up to a standard of being that doesn’t quite fit who they are. You have the people that think that if they follow the dating guide line precisely that they would end up happy and in love, but when happiness and loves doesn’t come they completely breakdown. You have the people that were told their whole lives that a person is incomplete without a partner so they are in constant relationships or fight to stay in a relationship that is bad for them because they are afraid to be alone. And then there are the ones that are in a relationship of sometime and think that they have all the answers and try to set you up with people they think you would “just love” and when you meet them they are completely undesirable to you and just aren’t right. So when is being single such a bad thing.

I’m not a relationship person and that's not to say that 1 or 5 or 10 year down the road i will be ready to settle down, but I do get very lonely at times and now that it’s the Christmas season it’s especially lonesome. I sit and think about when I was in a relationship and what if I was in a relationship, but then I see the people around me in relationships and I see how hard they fight to try not to be lonely around the holiday seasons. I’m not overly cynical, but I am jaded (I live in Las Vegas) so I feel that relationships are bullshit. Yeah, I know not everyone can be single, but not everyone can be in a relationship. I can see myself answering to someone or asking permission to go somewhere because my partner is uncomfortable with me going out without them. Fighting over whether or not I should have stared at that person longer than I did or whether or not I was flirting with someone.

I feel that I’m still too young to be in a serious relationship and I don’t judge people that are in relationships, but I do judge the ones that think they are better than you because they have someone and you don’t or make joke about your being single because your “tough” and you can handle it. Bullshit, I am tough, but bitch I am human and don’t come for me, ever! I have had chances to be with someone, but when I think about the work I have to put in a steer clear of that and go my own way. I can barely take care of my dog let alone someone’s feelings; in that case I can barely take care of myself.

In closing what I’m trying to say is that some people like being single and having their freedom. I can handle being alone on the holidays because I know I’m tough and I will make it, but for those of you that are in a “serious” relationship trying to think of the way your single friends feeling whenever you try to set them up with people that are good for or when they make insensitive joke at your expense because your think they are “tough” and can handle it. So with that have a happy holiday and New Year.